And why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, “Let me take the speck out of your eye,” and behold, the log is in your own eye? Matthew 7:3-5

A critical spirit is a blind guide. Leave it out of your life.

Once a blind man, having a heavy schedule for the day, rose early. He had gotten dressed so quickly that when he stepped out into the morning commerce he still had his comb sticking in his hair. As he walked through his world, he began to condemn the loud talk of the people around him. He congratulated himself that he was not as ill-tempered as the quarrelsome hagglers in the marketplace. He felt good in his heart that he was not as boisterous as those who pushed and elbowed their way around him. He enjoyed feeling superior to those he secretly condemned.

While he thus gloried in his own intellectual superiority, he ran his hand across his hair to discover, with horror, that he had left his comb in his hair when he had gotten dressed to go to work. He was suddenly washed with healthy shame. It is dangerous to try to pick the speck out of other’s eyes with the logs of condemnation in your own.

Let’s talk about healthy shame. Healthy shame is not that which you seek to project on others, making them feel guilty because they lack your excellence. Healthy shame is that which you inflict on yourself. The sweetest words in the ears of our heavenly Father are: “O God, forgive me for presuming I was so much more than I really am!”

As humans, we have a basic need for community. Our shame in this case acts as a healthy reminder that sometimes we need help and that we have a need to be involved in loving, caring relationships.

One of the biggest road blocks to creativity is a feeling of being right. When we think we are absolutely right, we stop seeking further information. Being certain stops curiosity.  Curiosity is at the heart of all learning. Our healthy shame never allows us to think we know it all.

Some would say that spirituality is our ultimate human need. Healthy shame is essential for grounding ourselves to this ultimate source of reality. Healthy shame reminds us that we are not God. It grounds us in humility.

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  • Guest - Tipo Wiliam Mel

    The Bible says, " Pride goes before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall" (Proverb 16:18), this mean that the pathway to destruction is paved with the sins of pride and arrogance. You may be talented, intelligent, and destined for success. but the difference between success or failure will come as a result of your attitude. As brother Enoch explained, humility is a proper self-evaluation. Becoming humble begins with realizing that everything your are and everything you own or enjoy is from God. Your talents, background, status, and looks are determined by God (1Cor.4:7)

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  • Guest - Dak

    A “critical spirit,” is an obsessive attitude of criticism and fault-finding, which seeks to tear others down — not the same thing as what is sometimes called “constructive criticism.” The only criticism that is ever constructive is that which is expressed in love to “build up,” not to tear down — it is always expressed face-to-face, never behind their back.

    The person with a critical spirit usually dwells on the negative, seeks for flaws rather than good. They’re a complainer, usually always upset, and generally have a problem or a complaint about something. They often have little control over their tongue, their temper, and have tendencies for gossip and slander, which Paul said were sins “worthy of death” (Rom. 1:29-32).

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